I had bought personal sessions with a coach (I’ll call him Joe) about 4 months ago, i trained a couple times with him and all was well, I stepped into another gym and tore my rotator cuff, and waited 2 months before I could train with him again.

Today I went to train with him, we did clinch work and some wrestling, I’m very respectful towards him, I say sorry too much when I drill with him, etc.. anyways, towards the end I asked him to spar just boxing for a bit and he said okay.

I’ll try to explain everything in detail and clearly as I can.

I started off with a jab in southpaw stance then I feinted a cross, and threw a right overhand which I felt hit him hard, and it was a mistake on my end.

He then started throwing bombs everywhere and I was defending but I honestly thought he was making a man out of me. I defend against Joe until I get in a clinch with him and I jokingly say “is that all you got”, which I shouldn’t have.

Couple shots later Im hugging him and he’s backing up into a fan and I tell him to watch out. After this moment joe puts me in a guillotine drops to the ground. I wasn’t sure why he was choking me out but I tapped, he didn’t let go. I tapped he didn’t let go again.

Then Joe let’s go, pinned me on my back took his gloves off and choked my neck with both his hands, I was fucking terrified. I pull his hands off for a split second but he used one hand momentarily, he let me go, and back handed me twice. This all happened really quickly, and he asked me after all of this happened “why did you do that”. Which, I wasn’t sure what I did, i told him I thought it was game and I was matching intensity.

I do think I’m somewhat in the wrong but I didn’t feel any momentum building up to this, other than the hard shots, it just happened.

I went back to him twice apologizing and saying I deserved what happened even though I wasn’t sure. Then he started calling me a punk and whatnot in-front of the entire gym. I was more confused than embarrassed, and I just sat down to process what the fuck just happened.

I then get these texts that I clipped. Nothing like this has ever happened in between the two of us.

I’d like an outside view. How does this look/sound?